Throughout the entire world, we are surrounded by pixels from our pockets, to our wrist. People live life through their laptops and phones. Business meetings are no longer held at a common place, it's all done through video conference. Such things occur with me too. With my grandparents being in India, the only way we talk is by text or very rarely do we ever do facetime calls. This is how the world has been revolutionized, this also brings up the idea, Do phones and technology affect your relationships? Phones and technology do a lot that doesn’t affect your relationship positively. The ways people use technology can create problems between romantic partners, potentially stirring conflict and dissatisfaction in the relationship. This shows a huge negative effect on relationships between people. Phones and Technology affects the interaction between people by creating a distance.

People nowadays are really into texting. They are using it almost all the time. They even use it to have interaction with family almost all the time. However, some people are done with this fake interaction. In dating relationships, some are flabbergasted by their partner texting so them so much. Data proves this, According to a 2014 Research: “A 2014 Pew Research Center poll indicated that one in four cell phone owners in a relationship or marriage found their partner too distracted by their cell phone” (GoodThearphy Staff). This research shows how people in a relationship get arguments or misunderstandings which can leave their relationship at the verge. This shows us that many arguments between couples have something to do with technology use, such as deciding when to use devices and when to abstain. Polls also say, that younger users are more likely to report increased tensions in their relationships. This is because of their increase in using the technology and being more addicted to it. This shows how when people text each other, even in accident, it could create huge amounts of misunderstanding between people.

When a person talks, the text they say has many different meanings. This is known as “tone” in our society. The way you discover their meaning is by examining the tone that they speak in. This cannot be conveyed through a text message. The tone that you will want to convey is possibly not what the person might want to convey in. Often times this can be misunderstood and could leave a huge distance in your relationships. Studies show, “Text messages can easily be misunderstood….It’s amazing how upset people can get when they get a text and think it means something, but their partner meant to say something totally different” (Halyard). This shows how the common misunderstanding occurs. It is just a difference in understanding what people want to convey. Basically couples text a lot more resolving their issues rather then spending some valuable time talking together. Halyard really wants to convey that people are misusing the idea of smartphones and technology. Since people can avoid face to face expressions and don’t have to confront in front of one other, people say anything they want through the phone; Examples such as breaking up through the phone.

When developers put out SMS out there into the real world, they didn’t have the intention of people misusing it and have arguments and misunderstandings through this. But, that's what the world uses it for now. People use it in a way to cover themselves from confronting straight-forward into their face. Studies also show, "People have broken up over text messages! Arguments and fights between partners-- that led to huge problems or even ending relationships-- have often been started or exacerbated by misunderstood text messages. These can easily be avoided by just picking up the phone or meeting in person” (Halyard). This quote shows how people use phones and technology in an incorrect way. Initially they have some misunderstanding because of which they don’t talk anymore. Afterwards, all their talks happen through technology. Where they can't clearly understand each other's expressions, tones, and feelings. These are impeding effects that make the relationship deteriorated instead of making it stronger. Therefore, if the people talk to each other in person and explain each person’s point of view they are more likely to become more understanding and would end up having a much stronger relationship.

Some might say that misunderstandings could be solved by explaining the point of view through text messages also. However, this wouldn’t work well because text messages will not convey the correct tone and emotions which will rather cause the misunderstanding to be greater than to reduce and be more understanding. Statistics has proven that the tone you text is often misunderstood, and people spend more time arguing about it then interacting and solving an issue.

Technology has severe negative impacts on relationships. It can not only take your relationship and change the tone and create negativity in your texts but it can create deep misunderstandings that can possibly never be healed and could even go to the extent of breaking your relationship completely. It creates the feeling that anyone can say anything and they don't have to face the real reaction of it. Identifying ways to use these new inventions successfully—without cheating yourself out of genuine human connection in the process—may ultimately require more low-tech solutions.