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My Raindrop

January 12, 2013
By Anonymous

It was those pictures...those stupid facebook pictures of all seven of them posing in tendu and arabesque. I was number eight of the group. You question my parents for their side of the story and they would tell you of their challenges with the adults at the ballet school: The school's fundraising calendar without African-Americans, the offensive remarks and looks. However, I saw a different side, a side that at the time did not seem atrocious. Now it hurts, those pictures of my "friends" sting. We would all talk together like sisters. I saw each girl everyday. I thought I knew everything about them, but what I didn't know was that they weren't really my friends. All the comments about my skin color not being a "big deal", that to them I was just like all of them. It was a lie. I wasn't and am not one of them. Their blonde, brunnette, and red hair is nothing like my nappy black half-Haitian African American hair. Their freshly pealed apple skin is nothing like my dark chocolate caramel skin. Yet we all had hearts, and feelings. I laughed, giggled and cried with each girl. Then why did they treat me so badly? I was genial to each girl. If their mom was late to pick-up after practice I waited with them no matter how late. If they fell during recital I was the first one to rush over and check on them. When I left the dance school not one girl called me. I told myself that it was because they were busy! they weren't busy. I said that they might not have noticed yet! How could they not notice that the one chocolate brown girl was missing. I knew their whole friendship was a lie when one girl saw me at school and simply asked "How do you like your new ballet school?". Did they think I left by choice? I LEFT because I wanted to go to a ballet school where I didn't have to run away with my costume just so the teacher wouldn't give it to a white girl. I LEFT because I wanted to dance at a place that would look at my skill level before my skin color. I may seem angry, which I was, or hurt, which I was. But I'm not anymore. I realize those pictures are fake, and I just hope the new girl they added learns sooner then I did, that they don't care. I have moved on. I am a strong believer that my story did not happen in vain. These stories loom in the eyes of almost all black ballet dancers, but like the first raindrop from those clouds my story has left. It no longer congests my mind with suffering. I hope this aids someone: another aspiring black dancer, someone being discriminated against for any reason, or maybe even someone who realized they had fake friends. Helen Keller said "Keep your face to the sunshine and you can't see the shadows". Those seven girls stayed my shadows for a while, but my sunshine is the realization that I no longer have to worry about not being the lead part in recital just because I am black. I feel stronger.


The author's comments:
I wrote this piece because I needed to let my feelings out. Every time I saw pictures of any of the girls I became angry. I realized I needed to let it out to someone other than my parents and figured writing would be good way to.

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Pray&DoGood said...
on Feb. 24 2013 at 4:19 pm
@Alonzo So what would you call an organization that is not inclusive or represents the presence of all its dancers? To be honest I've read the piece several times and I didn't see the word "racist' come up once. Except in the subtitles for the piece.
In fact I think the subtitles were created by the editor  Additionally why did you assume she is disadvantaged? Oh... maybe because she was Black right? Why did you assume she didnt work for what she may have Not gotten? hummmm sounds biased to me? Let me tell You something! You, WIll Not Get everything you work for, a lesson that you obviously  haven't learned yet .And yes, unfortunately you WON'T get it because you are Black, or White or female, or poor, or American or disabled or Christian or Jewish. The quote you used can prove this point, racism- which btw is misued for people who are really just bigoted or prejudiced- or any ism for that matter Can unfortunately be put on just about anything, and rightly so. Finally,not sure how many friends You have, but real friends, especially since the writer described her experiences with each girl, would have called and asked about her.  I agree the racism part Might be questionable.True racist must have some sort of power to hold someone pack from an opportunity they deserve, probably not the case with teen ballet dancers.   I just think that the girls the author danced with  were not her friends to begin with, a hard lesson to learn, but seems like this young writer is doing well and has moved on, and Good for her. Now to the young writer; if you danced as well as you write you should not let anyone stop you. Keep dancing and writing. We need young women like you who are not afraid to share their experiences using the power of the printed word. Kudos to Teen Ink for giving young people a forum to do so.

Rosie said...
on Feb. 24 2013 at 3:58 pm
 When Thomas Sowell said the quote you mentioned I don't believe he meant it in the way you referred to it. Yes RACISM is used often and yes it can be put on anything, but only because it is there. It hides in people hearts and makes us neglect others. To be racist my dear child you don't have to call some Nigger, racism is the act of neglecting someone for the pure reason that there skin is a different color. Now let me leave you with this quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." That hate is what made you write this comment, and that love is what made me write mine.    

Alonzo said...
on Feb. 2 2013 at 4:38 pm
Wow, they didn't have black people in their calendar?  That means they were racist?  Does it offend you that they didn't?  Does it make you feel left out?  And they didn't call you?  That means they were racist?  So what would make them not racist?  Adding blacks into their calendar and calling you and pleading you to return?  You never even said how they treated you badly!  You're telling me that they're racist just because they didn't happen to have black people in their calendar and they didn't call you?  So showing concern by asking about your new school means everything was fake?  If you left, then it was your choice.  Let me tell you something.  You EARN everything in life.  It isn't given to you as a benefit just because of what skin color you are or aren't.  It isn't given to you just because people think you're underadvantaged.  YOU have to work for it and earn, just like everyone else.  To wrap this up, let me end with a quote from a man named Thomas Sowell. "The word 'racism' is like ketchup. It can be put on practically anything."