In the past, I often won’t have the courage to be responsible for what I did in the school when it was a bad thing, like having a fight with others or harming others in many ways. While I went to America, I  knew I needed to take care of myself and if I do bad things I need to earn the consequences by myself.  Not just hiding behind my parents like the past. This is one of my experience, last year, when the year started, I knew that I couldn’t smoke in school, but I still did it even though I knew there was a rule against it. When we had been caught, I was quite surprise and afraid, but the teacher wanted us to tell the truth. I admitted and received the punishment of manual labor for three days. My parents had known it in the first place, it was a time that I needed to take the responsibility for my actions and grow up. This is a experience that had affect me a lot since then. After this experience, I had learn that it is the time to be an adult, and grow up like a man.

“When you start thinking about being responsible for your actions, that is when you start to become a man.” This is from a talk with my father. He was talking about people who need to be responsible when they had made a choice for themselves and how it was a process that led him to become a man. He was talking about me.  Everytime when I think about what my father said about responsibility, I think of how it is a lesson my father learnt that he is trying to pass down to me. This is a big part of why they would finally allow me to leave home and study abroad. This freedom has started to allow me to learn how to be responsible and take care of myself.

When my parents wanted me to come to America, I was really shocked; it felt like it was the end of the world. At that time, I really didn't want to come to America because all of my friends are all in Taiwan. This had affected me a lot. In my life, I would have never thought that the dilemma of going to another country to study would be presented to me, nor did I want it to. Eventually I had decided to follow what my dad wanted me to do, even though it wasn’t my prefered choice. When I had got to the airport, in my mind I had figure out what I want and know what is good for me. Because at that time I was causing trouble in school and,not really studying hard. This could become a time that I can build my character to a higher standard and make my parents proud.

I was finding sources about responsibility and I had got one that had attracted me the most.  “That responsibility doesn’t matter how smart we are, there is only so much responsibility that a person can handle”. From this quote, I could understand responsibility could change someone’s life by making their own decision and influence the future. This is also a place that we could see a lot in our lives. It had also made me think that responsibility is also based on rules. This is a main point because I have my own rules which made me responsible for my own future. Also everyone has the ability to do such things in society. Many people find reasons for why the are not in charge of their own lives, these are the people who fail. They need to find ways to take charge and be a active member of society.

I learnt a lot from what my dad said to me, to be a man we need to be responsible to yourself and have the guts to earn what you have done is very important. This is why I would never forget my father’s words when he said “when you have the thought of being responsible for yourself that is the time that you are becoming a real man.” This is a big part of me and has built my character.