I believe people outgrow love. Everyone makes love seem to be some great thing that will always make you happy. In the movies you watch, the guy gets the girl, but in real life things don’t just magically work out that way. There is no fairy tale or happy ever after. Outgrowing love isn’t something people plan on or want to happen but as time goes on and people change, things happen and we have to accept them. There is this saying that goes, “lf you don’t still love them, you never really loved them in the first place.” I disagree because anyone can love someone and then outgrow that love for them. I’ve seen it happen many times and watched it happen to myself.

I grew up going to a small private school called Immanuel Lutheran. Growing up with twenty five kids in my class, I got to know them all pretty well. As the years went on all the families knew each other and got along. Eventually, as we went our separate ways, either in middle school or going into the high schooll. I found out some of my old friends who I knew almost my whole life, their parents had gotten a divorce or had separated. I grew up knowing these parents and seeing them on the weekends and always at the school looking so happy and so in love. Like a happy, married, Christian couple. After seeing many people I knew have this happen to them I realized that love isn’t forever. People outgrow love. Even though in the Christian beliefs you should not resort to divorce but rather work out the problems until they are solved. I guess it just isn’t like that and some things can’t be fixed. I am not an expert on love but from what I have seen you can’t force it so if it fades away, you can either accept it or be unhappy for however long you let it.

In seventh grade my brother played soccer with this boy. Over time our families became close family friends because we would see them every weekend at the soccer games. One night this boy’s family invited us to dinner. When I got there I met their son Charlie who was my age and went to Rotolo while I still went to my private school. I had no idea from that moment on he would have such a huge impact in my life and that I would love him. Days after that we kept in touch and I always saw him as a good friend. For years we were best friends and we told each other everything. Until this year. I never saw him as anything more than a friend until one day I was looking at him like he put the stars in the sky and I realized I did love him. If you were to ask me if I still loved him today though I don’t think I could say yes. You can be so close with someone and watch everything fall apart right in front of you and there might not be one thing you can do to change that. I outgrew my love for Charlie. I’ll never really know if he outgrew his love for me but some things aren’t meant to be, and we were one of them.