Dressed Up

When do you wake up?

Do you sleep in or are you one of the many girls

who feel obliged to wake up an hour, maybe two earlier just to look “good.”

Do you wake up and get ready

feeling excited for the new day or do you spend your morning worrying what others will think of you.

Does your hair look ok?

Is your makeup good enough?

Will people like your outfit?

These are the thoughts that fill our heads every morning.

We are told that we have to look a certain way.

We have to follow the newest trends.

We have to cover our imperfections with makeup.

We have to buy clothes that gain others approval.

But what we really need is to be accepted, 

And we do all of this to get that acceptance.

If you don't wear what everyone else is wearing then you stick out.

We want to fit in but we can't because everyone is different and you can't copy anyone exactly.

So we do all of this to get as close as we can.

Growing Up

What were you taught when you were little?

Everyone was probably taught the basics like don’t lie and share 

but what other things were you taught?

Well if you're a boy you were probably taught football,

while girls were told that they were too fragile to play boy sports.

If you’re a boy you had race cars and wrestling action figures,

girls had baby dolls and barbies.

Girls are taught to be pretty and feminine,

while boys get to be rough and “manly.”

But more Importantly girls are taught:

To not walk alone at night

To park under a light

To not wear provocative clothes

To not lead a man on

To always carry pepper spray

To stay in a group

To always watch your drink

Girls are Taught to be afraid,

while boys can be care free because they are tough and nothing can hurt them.

“Perfect Body”

How many times do you look in the mirror 

and wish you could change something about your body?

Too skinny?

Too big?

Too short?

Too tall?

Different eye color?

Different waist size?

Different hip size?

Different smile?

Everyone wants something they don’t have.

And people go to great lengths to get them.

If a girl thinks she’s too big she might stop eating.

If a girl wants bigger hips she might get plastic surgery.

If a girl wants a different eye color she might bleach them.

But no matter what you do to your body

there will always be something you wish to change.

Everyone's idea of perfect id different.

So instead of trying to change your body, 

you should try changing your mindset instead.

Trapped In Your Head

You have to get good grades

You have to be good at sports

You have to be popular

You have to be nice to only the people who matter

You NEED to be perfect

A lot of girls grow up with these crushing expectations on their shoulders.

These ideas of “perfect” cause a lot of problems.

When you don’t get a perfect grade you stress

When you get cut from a team you freak out

When you don’t have the coolest friends you feel judged

All of these expectations cause so much stress and anxiety 

you start to feel too tired to think about anything else.

Then there’s teasing:

your too short, your not dressed up enough, your dumb, your a know-it-all.

These words flow through your mind and keep you from being your true self.

To self-conscious to act how you want, be with who you want,

And be who you want to be.

Scared

Scared.

Scared and alone and trapped.

You can’t move, 

your mind tells you to leave but your legs won’t follow.

You want to say no or stop

but the words are caught in your throat.

And when it’s over your head fills with new thoughts:

Was it my fault?

Why did they do this to me?

Will it happen again?

You're filled with feelings of disgust, loneliness, sadness, and anger.

You want it to stop but it won’t because there's no escaping it for you.

Many women and girls are faced with these problems and little is done about it.

They feel too scared to tell anyone,

they don’t know how people will react.

Will they be asked:

What were you wearing?

How did you turn them on?

Why didn’t you try to stop them?

But they will never know what could have happened because they told no one.

They kept it to themselves

and let it eat away at their minds until it caused permanent damage.